Joy, Flow and Balance Improves Your Business

When you're happy with your work it has a big effect on your life. The opposite is just as true. People talk about work life balance but for me the two are so intertwined that I don't find that...

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You Are Not An Idea

People seek connection and community, so it makes sense that people connect themselves to ideas in order to form bonds with others. The problem is that when you identify with an idea, that is to say...

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Don’t Panic – Seek More Information

We've all been there: something bad happens and we start to spiral thinking of all the horrible possibilities. For me today that was leaving my bag on the train. I got off and was halfway to the...

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Use Your Own Words

As a teacher I ask my students to prove they have understood the material by expressing it in their own words. We should also ask of ourselves when we are sharing our opinions and engaging in...

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Who Wins in an Argument?

We put a lot of time and effort into winning, but we sometimes fail to recognise what "real" winning is as opposed to beating the other player. What do we gain when we "win" an argument? Maybe it's...

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Blame and Perspective

Blame is built into the English language, and this affects us deeply, and silently. If I drop my mother's favourite china plate in the kitchen, in English we might say, "You dropped the plate!"...

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Why do we feel shame?

Shame is one of the most counterproductive and long-term harmful emotions.   When we feel shame we self-destruct, we push others away and we make the situation worse - without intervention this can...

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